11 Jul

My Friend is Getting Married and I’m Jealous

Vishwanath Iyer

Vishwanath Iyer

Often described as a maverick, rebel Yogi, speaker, author, actor, workout junkie, coach and entrepreneur, Vish is a rare cocktail of spirituality, science and business. His own 30-year meditation practice - combined with a Brahmin family lineage that has produced several generations of Vedic Yoga scholars & masters - has instilled in Vish a diehard belief that solutions to all human problems (including finding romantic love) lay in Yoga meditation and the Yoga lifestyle.
Vishwanath Iyer

We have all experienced the jealous loved one before. Maybe you are even the jealous individual. The topic comes up frequently on relationship advice message boards. “My friend is getting married. I’m jealous of their happiness. What do I do?” It is not uncommon for single individuals to feel jealous when a friend or loved one is getting married. Often someone may feel a juxtaposition of happiness for their friend and worry about their own future when it comes to love. What do you do if you experience jealousy? How do you handle it through Yoga wisdom?

First we must discuss the reason that may cause jealousy. One reason is you may believe love is a random thing, a random experience that happens out of the blue to only people who are very pretty, very successful, or just plain lucky. And if it doesn’t happen to you think you are not pretty, you’re not successful, or you’re just not lucky, that belief leads to you not feeling good and you take that negative energy and it becomes jealousy.

The yoga approach to love is consciously creating love with intention. For example, if you want to get a better body you follow a certain set of processes and over a course of months you’re going to have the change in body and if you do everything right you become stronger and fitter. You have the same opportunities to get into shape and be physically fit as anyone else. The playing field is even for everyone. The same can be applied to love. If you practice yoga techniques to find love you will find love as well.

There is one very important thing to keep in mind that is often overlooked. You should always bless a happy married couple. Always send them healing and peace. Be genuinely happy for them because you are anticipating your moment, and it’s like a rehearsal for your experience. You can say “Oh wow this is how it’s going to be for me. Awesome.” Know also that from a karma perspective every time you are jealous it’s going to lessen your chances for finding love. So it is for your own good that you don’t indulge in jealousy. There are techniques in the Yoga & Love book that teach you how you can consciously create that love experience. Love is a consequence of your own thoughts and feelings. What you feel inside is what you will attract.

Yoga Wisdom:

  • Understand the real reasons behind your jealousy.
  • Know that love is not a random event for people you may view as more worthy.
  • Just like everyone has the same opportunities to get into physical shape, you have the same opportunities to find love.
  • Instead of feeling jealous, bless a married couple. Be genuinely happy for them because you are anticipating your moment when you find love.
  • From a karma perspective, every time you are jealous it decreases your chances of finding true love.
  • What you feel inside is what you will attract.
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