After Thanksgiving and spending time with the family, we tend to look back with fondness and note just how crazy our clan really is.  It’s okay to admit it, it’s true for everyone.  I mean, there really is no “normal” anymore.  Is there any family that hasn’t been affected by dysfunction?  I don’t think so.  We could sulk about it, but it’s better to just laugh.  We’ve got in-laws and out-laws, steps and sibs, and the assorted characters and cousins who come by for whatever libations are being served.  Go ahead and join them, just don’t overindulge. There is a serious side to this.  A study from Columbia University came out today that says that almost one in five young American adults has a personality disorder that interferes with everyday life.  Even more alarming is that the numbers were greater for those who abuse alcohol or drugs.  But the biggest issue is that there is a widespread lack of treatment in the 19 to 25 year age group.  Hopefully this study will raise awareness and get young people to seek help.  It is important to have accessible mental health services along with other medical services on college campuses.  And it is important that insurance carriers routinely cover mental health services.  Imagine if 20-25% of the population had an untreated physical problem, like diabetes.  And yet, various forms of mental illness are affecting families all over the place and we don’t have the resources or means to get help. So here we are, coming up on Christmas, when the whole crazy bunch will be gathered together again.  What can we do?  We can’t solve everyone’s problems, but if we suspect that there’s an issue, we can be informed and offer guidance.  And just love them.  And be aware.  Let them talk, let them know that there’s a place for them where they are loved.  That’s what family is all about.

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