I always encourage people to be very clear in their communication with their spouses or partners. But every once in awhile I hear from someone who has come up with a great way to “drop a hint.” A friend of mine, a newlywed, said that she really wanted her husband to give her a pearl necklace for her birthday. The day before her birthday she woke up and told him that she had a dream that he gave her a pearl necklace as a gift. “I wonder what that means?” she asked innocently. “You’ll find out tomorrow!” he said with a grin. The next day she was pleased as punch when he presented her with a beautifully wrapped gift, she just knew that her hint had worked and she had gotten the necklace. Her husband had a huge grin on his face, proud that he had picked up something special for his bride. She opened the wrapping to find “The Dreamer’s Dictionary!”
Yes, that’s a bit of humor, but it illustrates the point. We each have different filters, different translations, different interpretations. Be clear with one another when it is important, and keep a sense of humor when the message sometimes gets lost in the transmission.