Those “empty nest” feelings begin when your teenagers start driving, and are more independent.   They are spending less time at home, and more time at school, or working, or with their friends.  They’re making decisions on their own, and planning for life at college.  Before the kids move out, this is the time to prepare for what this new phase of life is going to be like.  Remember that being a parent is just one of the roles you play, it’s not your entire identity.  The empty nest years don’t have to feel empty, they can actually be really fun!  You’ll have lower grocery bills, plenty of hot water, less laundry to do, a cleaner house, and a lot more privacy.  This is a great time to re-connect with your spouse.  Here are some tips:

-Plan a trip.  You have the freedom now to travel!

-Adopt a pet.  If you miss care-taking, there are plenty of animals at the shelter who could use your tlc.  It will be like having a new baby.

-Start an exercise program together.  Join a gym, or invest in some home gym equipment.

-Take classes together.  Check out your local community college or community recreation department.

-Socialize.  Connect with other couples and hold dinner parties.

 

Don’t Bite Your Tongue: How to Foster Rewarding Relationships with Your Adult Children