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Sad and lost

Question

Hey,

I am currently in a long distance relationship with a girl i’d do anything for i am only 17, i went to visit her and felt whole for once in my life the whole time i was there with her. I have been home for about a month and i feel so empty walking around even though i still talk to her everyday i cant hold her and i havent felt any better. i had a plan to go to college near her but the idea fell through and she cant go here for health reason’s. she was abused when she was younger and i want to be around her every moment of every day to make sure nobody hurts her ever again i worry every moment, i just want to be with her i could care less about sex if i could just be near her i would be happy. i know people think i am too young and its just “puppy love” but to that i say people in the past fell in love at my age why can’t i. do you have any advice that could help me be with her i am sad and lost.

 

Answer

It sounds like you love this girl, and that is wonderful.  Long distance relationships can be challenging, but they are do-able.  You need to do what you need to do to finish your education, that’s the priority.  See her when you can.  Write her, text her, call her, stay in touch and let her know that you care.  Meanwhile, she has to do what she needs to do.  She has to learn how to take care of herself.  Your instinct is to want to take care of her, but that’s not the best thing for her.  She has to be her own person, to be strong, and independent.  When you both are strong and independent then you will be so much better together.  Keep all of this in perspective, and know that you are learning and growing every day, and that if you are meant to be together, you will be.