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Hi, i have been with my boyfriend for several months now but I have a jealosuy problem. I am jealous of his ex girlfriend. She’s gorgeous and they have been together for 4 years (longer than our relationship) I feel like i always have to compete with my boyfriend’s ex girlfriends. What should I do? He used to be really crazy about her and Im not sure if he still has some feelings left for her. What should I do? Please help me. thank you.


Jealousy is irrational.  What you need to do is to live in the present. In the present, your boyfriend is with you!  He is with you because he wants to be with you.  If he wanted to be with someone else, then he would be with someone else.  You need to understand that you are worthy of his love, and that you are fabulous yourself – you don’t need to compare yourself to anyone else.  You are the best you there is. 

Now, if your boyfriend is calling, texting or e-mailing his ex-girlfriend, or you have some reason to suspect that he has feelings for her, then you need to talk with him.  But if he is just paying attention to you and no one else – concentrate on that! Don’t even think about his past – YOU are his present, so live in this moment, and love and appreciate him here and now.