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Question
Dear Lisa,
Hi my name is Brandi and I’m having trouble with this guy. 
I like this guy and he knows I like him, and for awhile we talked about getting together. We dated a couple of years ago and it didn’t last long. We we talked about getting back together he said he wasn’t ready to hear all the feedback from people about us dating again. I wanted to know more answers about the way he felt about me so i asked my cousin to talk to him about me. My cousin asked him if he loved me. He said that if we ever dated again then he thinks he would love me. Me and him have this connection and i feel it deep down…i just don’t know what to do anymore. Please give me advice.
 
Thank You,
Brandi 
Answer

Hi, Brandi-

So this guy’s excuse for not dating is he doesn’t want to hear about it from other people?  He sounds pretty immature, like he cares to much about what other people think.  And then you have your cousin talk to him about you, which is just what he didn’t want in the first place… hmmm.

My advice is this: go out and date!  College is the time to explore relationships.  Have fun – date lots of different guys!  What can come from this?  You could meet a new, fantastic guy who makes you forget all about Bachelor #1, and you could learn a lot about relationships by understanding how different people behave in them. And just maybe, Bachelor #1 will see that you are totally in demand, and wonder why he blew you off in the first place.  In which case, you can decide if you really do want to date him, or continue having fun with any of the other guys who have filled up your dance card.  You have connections with LOTS of people, but you can’t find them unless you put yourself out there and open yourself up to it.

How does that sound? :-)

xo,

Lissa