We don’t like to admit it, but each of us feels a little jealous at some time or another. If handled the wrong way, jealousy can destroy a relationship or a career and cause all kinds of havoc in your life! But if handled properly, jealousy can actually help you to learn and grow and improve your life and relationships. We CAN tame that green-eyed monster inside of us!

1. Look at what or whom you are jealous of. Is there a change you want to make in your life? Life is a mirror – so do you see something missing in your life that you need?
-For example: Are you jealous that an ex is happy with a new person? Are you feeling that it is ”unfair” for he/she to be happy? You’re not happy. Remember that only you can make yourself happy, not any other person. The way you are feeling, the way your old relationship ended, is no one’s fault. Get blame out of the way, and focus on creating new opportunities for yourself.

2. Understand that jealousy is part of being human. We each have a kind of “dark side” but it helps us to confront it every once in awhile and even embrace it as a part of who we are. Hiding jealousy, or denying it, just makes it worse! Instead, bring it out into the light – admit it, and work on it.

3. Use these feelings to learn more about yourself. Jealousy is just fear: fear that we are undeserving, fear that we are lacking something, fear that we will be hurt. Replace fear with love in every circumstance, and the jealousy goes away. You are whole, perfect and complete right here and right now!